How We Work – Marriage and Family Center

How We Work - Marriage And Family Center

What Happens When You Visit the Marriage and Family Center

What to expect Our clients may be people just like you. They tend to be extremely unhappy with what’s going on. To solve the problems they face, they’ve tried everything they know—everything they can think of, but things are not getting better. And they want and need things to get better. A common feeling our clients express is a feeling of being stuck.

Whether you are coming in as a family, a couple, or just yourself, becoming unstuck through psychotherapy (counseling done with a licensed therapist) is a gentle process that usually starts with letting your therapist get to know you and your situation. In a confidential setting the therapist will typically ask a lot of questions about you, your background, and the situation you are facing. Many clients report that this first, exploratory part of therapy helps them understand themselves better too.

Once you and your therapist understand better who you are, what you want, and what is keeping you from getting it, your therapist can guide and direct you along the most direct path from where you are now, to where you want to be. That guidance and direction can be brief (three to five sessions) or it can continue for as long as you and your therapist both agree that ongoing support is needed. Some clients choose to stay in therapy, checking in periodically for years just to maintain the highest level of life satisfaction possible. But for most clients, sessions begin to get less and less frequent (as they learn to use their new, more rewarding, less stuck way of living) until finally they can see they no longer need the therapist’s support to maintain the changes.

  • What I’d really like to find is a therapist who will just be honest and open with me. I don’t want to be talked down to or have someone pretend to understand when they really don’t. Pretend to care when they don’t. At one time I had a therapist who just couldn’t give me a straightforward answer—couldn’t give me an opinion. I know complete honesty is out of style. It may seem old fashioned. But to me it’s the most important thing. I need someone who will listen to me and who will just be real.” —Name Withheld